Do As We Say, Not As They Did

Do As We Say, Not As They Did

An unfiltered dating podcast all about love, sex, relationships, and all the ways humans are sometimes really bad at them. Dr. NerdLove and Dr. Liz Powell break down what not do, and what actually works.

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Has The Internet Made Dating Worse? Ep. 27
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Sept. 16, 2026

Has The Internet Made Dating Worse?

Women told men to stop approaching them, but now they’re upset that men aren’t taking charge? So what are men even supposed to do?! 🫩 In this episode of Do As We Say, Not As They Did, Dr. Liz Powell and Harris O’Malley dig into a post from r/DatingOver30 titled, “I Feel Gaslit by Modern Dating. Am I Completely Wrong?” And, yes... he kind of is. First things first, women changing their dating preferences isn’t what gaslighting is. Secondly, this sounds less like modern dating suddenly changed
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Are Men Actually Lonelier than Women? Ep. 26
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Sept. 9, 2026

Are Men Actually Lonelier than Women?

Is the male loneliness epidemic a real thing, or just something the internet won’t stop talking about? In this episode of Do As We Say, Not As They Did, Harris O’Malley and Dr. Liz Powell are getting right to the point: men are definitely lonely…but research suggests that they aren’t uniquely lonely. If women are just as likely to be lonely as men are, what’s the real predictor of loneliness? Money. Now that doesn’t mean there isn’t a gendered aspect to the problem. Along with ranting about t
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The Internet Has Broken Your Dating Standards Ep. 25
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Sept. 2, 2026

The Internet Has Broken Your Dating Standards

Are gold diggers actually lurking around every corner, just waiting to drain your bank account…or has dating advice on the internet convinced a whole bunch of men to fear a problem they most likely don’t have? In this episode of Do As We Say, Not As They Did, Liz Powell and Harris O’Malley read through a Reddit post on r/DatingAdvice that 100% violates the community guidelines and promises men “how to avoid gold diggers.” And the real kicker? The post is supposedly written by a woman… Between
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Why Do All Dating Apps Suck Now? Ep. 24
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Aug. 26, 2026

Why Do All Dating Apps Suck Now?

Would you pay over $60,000 to find a date? In this episode of Do As We Say, Not As They Did, Harris O’Malley and Dr. Liz Powell skip the Reddit disasters and get right to the source of modern dating…and why it sucks so much. Reading articles from The Cut, Wired, and the New York Times, they explore the problem with dating apps, why people are leaving them in droves, and how poor dating prospects are even affecting high-status, wealthy people. The only difference is that they’re turning to 5 and
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Are You Missing These Relationship Red Flags? Ep. 23
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Aug. 18, 2026

Are You Missing These Relationship Red Flags?

If your partner starts talking to you in a different language the first time you get in bed together, what would your reaction be? In this episode of Do As We Say, Not As They Did, Dr. Liz Powell and Harris O’Malley get back to their Reddit-y roots with two stories that seem wildly different, but both boil down to the same thing: communication. First, they hear from a woman whose first time with her boyfriend did not go how she expected. They both speak Spanish, but he suddenly burst into Engl
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Voice Memo Guy: Consent, Coercion, and Boundaries Ep. 22
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Aug. 11, 2026

Voice Memo Guy: Consent, Coercion, and Boundaries

Have you heard about the infamous TikTok Voice Memo Guy? In this episode of Do As We Say, Not As They Did, Harris O’Malley and Dr. Liz Powell fill you in on all the details, some questionable twists, and their thoughts on how weird it is to schedule getting laid via voice memo. A few months ago, a guy sent a voice memo to a woman he’d gone on a date with, saying that if their second date wasn’t going to end with them in bed together, there was no point in going at all. His message points out a
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About the Hosts

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Harris O'Malley

Harris O’Malley is an internationally recognized relationship expert, dating coach and syndicated advice columnist.

Famous for his ability to simplify complex dating dilemmas and solve the toughest relationship problems, he has long been sought after for coaching and advice.

Harris and his work have been featured in or on Nightline, Fusion TV, Vice, New York Magazine, The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, The Harvard Business Journal, The Guardian, CBC’s Out In The Open, Buzzfeed, Wired, Think Progress, Raw Story, Slate, Boing Boing, The Good Men Project, The Daily Dot, Mel Magazine, Lifehacker, Kotaku and many, many more.

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Dr. Liz Powell

Dr. Liz believes that Great Sex Can Change the World. They are the author of Building Open Relationships, a sex educator, and licensed psychologist (CA 27871, OR 3068) specializing in queer, kinky, and non-monogamous relationships. Dr. Liz has helped folks of all kinds become more confident in who they are and communicate more effectively with their partners. You can learn more about Dr. Liz at DrLizPowell.com, Sex-Positive Psych on YouTube, and @DrLizPowell on Instagram & Twitter.